Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Progress, What Progress?

So after that amazing Thursday things have gotten pretty messy with the Sweet V. She had two #2 success on Friday at home plus a handful of nasty accidents. Saturday - no success and she left to go to my folks for the week. Mom has been diligent and kept her in panties, but I think she's about to give up....and I don't blame her. V has had not 1 single success since she left on Saturday. My poor mom has hardly even gotten to enjoy her visit because of all the focus on the potty. We are very confused.

She shows all these signs that she's ready. She stays dry through nap. She sometimes stays dry overnight. When she goes TT in her pull-up she takes it off and puts it in the trash. She tells us she needs to go potty - sometimes before, usually after shes's gone. She doesn't want to wear the pull-ups most of the time. She's had success on the potty. Yet we seem to be getting nowhere.

Here's the thing....I'm not sure she has figured out yet how to make herself pee. The 3 success she's had were late in the day and I think we just timed it right so that it was just coming out at the right time. She'll sit on the potty and try to poop then 5 minutes later pee a lake in the floor.

So now I have a dilemma. Do I persist in this endeavor or do we pack it in and wait until the Christmas break. I realize that I think in my head that we are behind schedule because Paris was in panties before she hit 2. Vivie is clearly not Paris. If we keep trying at this it wil be very burdensome and probably very confusing. Several days in the week she would have to wear a pull-up to attend the various activities she goes to. Tuesdays she has camp from 9:30-1:30, Wednesday is LBC which we could try in panties, but that's risky and then there is Bible class that night where they prefer that they come in pull-ups until they are truly trained. Thursdays she goes to Erika's all day and I promised I wouldn't send her in panties until she had 3 straight accident free days. So, we'd be left with Mondays, Fridays, evenings, and weekends - except church time on Sunday when we'd be back in the pull-up. So the questions remains, is it even worth trying to continue? I don't know the answer.

I keep reminding myself that if we pack it in and wait until Christmas she'll really only be 2 1/2 and probably more ready. I mean, really, it's not like she's heading to kindergarten tomorrow or anything. I just don't want to loose. I want to win this battle now. But at what cost - my sanity? my carpet? endless pairs of cute little panties? Would I really be giving her power by putting it up until Christmas? Would it make it harder in the long run? Or is it that she isn't really ready yet? I DON'T KNOW!!!!!!

Help - advice is officially being requested. Please leave me comments.

5 comments:

erin said...

I don't have any advice. I'll just tell you that Bonnie is the same way - she can sit on the potty and "push" but doesn't know how to empty her bladder on command. So, I'm dealing with it later, like after Christmas, and she'll be a few weeks shy of 3 at that point. That was the age I pt'd Kellen and he did great. I mean, it's a few more months in diapers but it's a choice I'm making to preserve my energy and sanity. I say just go with your gut. Best wishes and I don't really think there's a wrong answer in this case. Good luck!

Perks said...

I so don't have the answer. PTing is THE hardest thing I've done as a parent. It's stressful and just NOT fun! So, go with what your heart and gut are telling you to do. Be happy with your decision and know that she won't be starting Kinder with a diaper. :)

Stephanie said...

I know how hard it is to PT a camel/strong-willed child. We would do undies with Jacob when we were home and pull-ups when we were out. He seemed to do fine. And remember he just woke up one day and started to go. Whoo-hoo! She will go when she is good and ready. Good luck and I'm praying for you.

Stephanie said...

I know how hard it is to PT a camel/strong-willed child. We would do undies with Jacob when we were home and pull-ups when we were out. He seemed to do fine. And remember he just woke up one day and started to go. Whoo-hoo! She will go when she is good and ready. Good luck and I'm praying for you.

Nellie's Nuggets said...

WELL! So today Vivie was in pull-ups, and she told me three different times that she needed to "go potty" and we had success with TT. Hooray! There were also several times that she didn't tell me and she went potty in her pull-up. I still think this is success.

I'm kind of with Stephanie on this one. Let her keep wearing the pull-ups when she needs to and put her in panties when you are home if you're up for it. Or just let her wear her pull-ups and see how she continues. She obviously has some idea of the process, she is still just in the learning mode. I see no reason to push for immediate perfection!

And, yes, we have had fun this week!